Friendly reminder ԅ(≖‿≖ԅ) that if you don’t sleep with someone for the sole reason that they’re HIV positive then you ARE being discriminatory towards a human being with a disease and you’re scum of the earth ｡◕‿◕｡ It’s basically as bad as saying you couldn’t love somebody with cancer. Respect people’s feelings. (◕‿◕✿)
"Give yourself HIV, asshole.
Do it or you’re scum.”
Because I needed to know how to fire tiny flaming death.
Let’s use a metaphor.
You have a shot gun.
When you shoot the gun, you can seriously wound of kill other people. But the gun will also kick back, and that can REALLY hurt. It can leave a big ass bruise. Hell, if you hold it wrong, and the gun is big enough, you could break your shoulder. Maybe you even shoot yourself in the foot every now and then.
But you are still the one holding the gun.
But anyone can buy a shotgun.
Anyone can hold a gun.
Your metaphor would be relevant and valid if only men could handle and purchase firearms, which is not the case.
Also, in saying that, you have not addressed the questions at all. How are males hurt by their own “privilege”? Better yet, how are men “privileged” for the sake of being born male? How are you not degrading women? You’re being sexist without even realizing it. Use all the metaphors you want, but what you’re really doing is avoiding the questions being asked.
So men are privileged because of this concept called Patriarchy. Patriarchy is the idea that our culture is one built on the ideas of male supremacy. That comes along with a lot of expectations for maleness and masculinity.
So man are privileged within this system because they are not impacted by systematic gender inequality. They are presumed to be superior and more valid compared to other genders.
But that system can also harm with because of toxic masculinity becoming increasingly hard to obtain. It also erases things like male victims of abuse and assault because the concept of masculinity precludes male victimhood.
Acknowledging that this system exists and working to dismantle it is not degrading, it is an act of upmost optimism.
Within the metaphor, men ARE the ones holding the gun because we live in a patriarchy. Our goal it to take the gun away so that no one has it.
“Within the metaphor, men ARE the ones holding the gun because we live in a patriarchy.”
So essentially, you’re oppressing yourself through the imaginary presumption that men are inherently superior to women, and that a patriarchy exists. But where are the statistics to back up your claim? Do you even have any? Your whole ideological is based on hearsay and inferiority complex, not statistics.
Women have the exact same rights as men. If we’re going to talk privilege, I can easily argue that women are far more privileged than men.
Men have no reproductive rights- women have far more power than men do in relationships. Women can kill their child in utero. Women can refuse to identify the father and place the child up for adoption. They can also surrender the child under safe haven laws. Men have absolutely zero legal options when confronted with an unintended pregnancy they do not want or a child for whom they do not wish to assume financial and legal responsibility. Men are not protected against genital mutilation like females are- The Girls Protection Act actually makes female genital cutting a crime, while it remains legal in every state to cut the genitals of male infants. Even though men and women both experience rape and domestic violence, society sympathizes with women, and not men, who experience those things. In fact, women have a lower chance of physical assault than men, which includes rape and sexual assault. Women are also favored in federal criminal court cases- women are less likely to be convicted of the crimes they are charge with, and when convicted, receive on average half the jail time that men do if they are jailed at all. Courts are 65% more likely to grant women, not men, sole custody of their children following divorce. Women have far more privilege when it comes to divorce courts and child custody than men.
If the patriarchy were as real as you say it is, then how can all of the above be true? Let’s move onto some other areas where women have privilege above men.
There are 1500 women’s shelters in the US, and as far as I know, zero to protect men from violent partners. Most homeless are actually men.
Only males are subject to Selective Service Registration. Women have draft immunity.
More women attend college than men. More women apply to college than men. Women are also less likely to drop out of college than men (though the reasoning is interesting. Women have a higher tolerance for debt than men. heh.)
Women have better healthcare globally. Men’s healthcare is underfunded. (x)
“So man are privileged within this system because they are not impacted by systematic gender inequality.”
Men are not impacted by systematic gender inequality. Right. Have you ever tried looking into the inequalities men face? Or are you, dare I say, so high up on your own female privilege that you’re unable to notice the injustices men face?
You then blame these issues that men face on the fact that they are men (which in your words I believe would be victim blaming).
The patriarchy does not exist.
Stop assuming the role of a victim, and acknowledge that women are the ones holding the gun, who call the shots. Not men.
At this point I honestly wonder what the victory condition looks like in the minds of feminist SJWs.
I mean, it seems that:
- when men have the advantage, it’s due to patriarchy
- when men are disadvantaged, it’s the patriarchy backfiring, usually because of “toxic masculinity.”
- when women are advantaged, it’s benevolent sexism by men (patriarchy here again!)
- when men are women are about the same (as much as can reasonably be done), data starts getting twisted (e.g. wage gap in the U.S. argument post Equal Pay Act of 1963)
Even changes that members of a normal movement would see as huge successes and leverage for greater success, feminist SJWs see as just more evidence of oppression. Furthermore, all agency is stripped from women in their view. Somehow, despite women not being inferior (disclaimer: I don’t believe women are inferior), men have utterly dominated women and continue to do so even after severely disadvantaging themselves in a number of the most important social institutions (e.g. the legal system), absolving women of all blame in the process when it comes to playing their parts of this alleged “patriarchy,” even to the point that the psychopathic women on this site who humiliate men who have shared their stories of being sexually assaulted and/or abused, women who often describe themselves as feminists who wish to “smash the patriarchy,” are supposedly not playing into the system. Yes, the culpability of women has been reduced to that of scared children who cannot help but acquiesce to the demands of the big, scary, ol’ menz.
And when feminists do fight and win, even landing women compensatory special treatment in society and subsequently getting the upper hand over men, well…that’s just because society hates women and doesn’t believe they’re strong enough to do it otherwise. Even when they win beyond their expectations, they feel they’ve lost.
I don’t know at what point they’ll consider themselves satisfied. I don’t even know if they know. I don’t even know if such a point exists. And if it does, they don’t seem to understand how to get there.
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This is the thing alright listen sometimes people are suicidal and they’re in a bad place and your immediate reaction is to give them flowery speeches about how great life is and how everything is actually great and all that shit is just no comfort and sounds like shit to those people so don’t do that just be a good friend and take them out to coffee and play risk and watch shows with them that’s what they need.
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